Time to prepare for his funeral/memorial service. Time to get his financial affairs in order. And even time to give in to anticipatory grief.
He’s amongst people at a big table for ten. Just him and his book.
For the first 3 months following my mums passing, I was frantic and desperate for memories. We had already lost her, I was terrified that I’d now forget her too. I wanted to hold on to our memories so tightly as if they were helium balloons. Like a child at the fayre, I daren’t loosen my grip in fear that they’d float away and be forgotten forever.
Self-care is crucial for maintaining good mental health, so what have you been up to? If you haven’t been partaking in self-care this week, what do you aim to do for next week?
Like those stretchmarks, wrinkles, lines, the added height she has not seen, I am confronted with an intense grief.
If you get night terrors; you are not a freak. You are not a freak for feeling anxious, or because you have experienced trauma, or any other reason.
For me, it is a text when someone is thinking of me, a small act of kindness, or a considerate conversation when I need support. Love exists in so many beautiful forms, and I think that is special.
My mother died in 1999, but I still miss her as though she just walked out the door.
Self care can be defined as this: an activity that helps to improve your mental health and wellbeing without causing stress or anxiety.